Visual – It’s not a secret that men heighten their arousal through sight. In fact, it’s a myth that women don’t – both sexes benefit from watching the action as it happens. It can actually start just by watching you undress for what’s coming next. Also, focusing on some positions that ‘put on a show’ will help to set him off. Having sex near or in front of a mirror can add another dimension to your bedroom antics, as you’ll both be able to look into each other’s eyes in any position, but you’ll both also be able to see almost everything that goes on. It’s also up to you to feel comfortable and confident, so don’t step out of your comfort zone if you feel things are going too far.
Physical – Every man has his own areas that can be stimulated. Some like their ear lobes licked and tugged, some may feel a little spark through the perineum, which you can stimulate with your finger or thumb. There are even a few hidden places, such as below the Adam’s apple, or along the ribs. Caress him, feel places you wouldn’t touch during sex normally, and maybe you’ll find a new intense area. These places tend to open themselves up over time, but the most important thing is to engage with your partner.
Verbal – good communication always leads to great sex, and you’ll know when he’s feeling great if he’s making noise. Whether it be through moans, groans or speech, let him know you’re enjoying hearing him, and encourage him out of his shell. You’ll see a benefit too, as it will help draw you further into the mood.
With all that advice in mind, here are some positions to try (if you haven’t already):
Cowgirl – or ‘on top’. This gives him a great view of both your bodies and also what’s happening between you. You control the speed, and you can lean back for a little more tension.
Reverse cowgirl – A little more advanced, in this position you face away from your partner.
Once you’ve blown his mind, you might be surprised to discover how quickly he wants to return the favour!