Spooning is a great start or end to an intimate session, or something a couple can do just to be close with each other, both physically and emotionally. However, there’s no reason that this should be relegated to the fringes of sex – as important as that is – this position also offers a great opportunity for penetration. For some reason ‘spooning’ was one of the top Google searches of 2013 in the UK, but no one is really sure why.
How to do it:
She lies on her side with knees slightly bent, and he lies behind her with his knees behind hers. Holding her hips, he brings them back towards his, entering her from behind.
This position allows for lots of skin-on-skin contact with ample opportunity for him to caress her entire body. This is a method that lends itself to slow, intense sex as the angle and depth of penetration can be very precisely controlled to put pressure on the sensitive back of the vagina.
Kissing is quite difficult in this position, although not impossible. She may find it difficult to stay in the moment, feeling that she’s just lying there, with no eye contact.
He lies on his back, legs straight and together, arms by his side. She lays on top of him, straddling him slightly guiding him into her. With most of her weight on top of him, and some support from her arms, she then closes her legs, resting them on top of his, sliding up and down on top of him. This is just as close as spooning, but offers the opportunity for eye contact and spooning. Her being able to close her legs tightens up all the muscles around the vagina, benefiting both him and her.
The Lap Dance
The name for this one comes from its similarity to the moves used by lap-dancers. These dances are all about creating intense intimacy and delivering sexuality without actual contact. When it’s tweaked to include sex, it layers this intimacy and closeness over the deep satisfaction of penetration.
How to do it:
He sits up on the edge of the bed, and she kneels on the bed, straddling him with a leg on either side, arms embracing him. She then lowers herself down on to him, easing him inside her.
She is in control and can dictate the speed, angle and depth of penetration. Both partners’ hands are free to touch each other (or themselves) for manual stimulation. This position can be very intimate as there is lots of opportunity for kissing, cuddling and eye contact. Over prolonged time, this becomes very intense.
This requires a lot of sustained muscle strength from her as she raises and lowers herself onto him with her legs. The prolonged eye contact can also get a bit much over time and make one or both partners feel self-conscious or uncomfortable.
Spin it around! He sits in the same position, but she sits on his lap leaning forward slightly. This has the physical benefits of The Lap Dance, but uses a different set of muscles in her legs and breaks the face to face contact. He will also be less pinned down, so he can take a much more active role in this position. It also means that he will be putting pressure on different parts of the vagina, and makes it easier to reach her clitoris for manual stimulation. So mix them up!