Most people feel really sexy during the summer – there’s something about having warm sunlight dappling your skin, and you on a relaxed holiday making you more carefree than at other times to make you feel desirable and in the mood for some hot fun. A research study by LoveHoney.co.uk found that the months of August, followed by June and July, are the months when people have the most sex[i]. Researchers put this phenomenon down to a mix of hormones and a rush of endorphins (the feel-good hormones) that are released in greater amounts when the temperature rises. So the summer gives us all a sense of endless possibilities and unlimited freedom, apart from a break in the normal routine. You can bring that sense of freedom into your bedroom and let yourself and your partner enjoy new experiences. If you want a new dimension to your sex life this summer, you could start with simple sex toys, such as the Durex Thrilling Touch vibrator. It can add new aspects to your lovemaking that you did not know existed before.
The hot weather certainly has many benefits for your sex life, but it is quite easy for things to go wrong as well – don’t overheat, or you will get sweaty instead of steamy. If the mercury continues to rise, beat the rising heat with a shower. You can now cool yourself by controlling the temperature. Or sit in the shade with a cool breeze, or in the path of a fan, or just keep a spray bottle handy. You can also reach out for ice cubes to act as sex toys – trace it over your lover’s and your body to cool down while things begin to heat up.
You will find that you’re often in the mood for love during the summer, but there are ways to go from sweet romance to raging lust. Research shows that people tend to have more sex while they are on holiday[ii], so if you can take a break with your partner, just do it. Even a day trip or an evening spent at home with the TV turned off, or where the two of you head for a walk in the balmy evening air can make both of you quite amorous. It is important to get a change of scenery and break your normal routine to unleash your sense of adventure and bring out your sexy side in the summer.
The best sex positions give you the best sexual experiences of the summer. You might not be comfortable with too much skin contact when the weather is clammy and hot. You might want to try the girl on top (such as the cowgirl) position, or doggy style, or with the woman lying on her back with her legs off the end of the bed with the man between her legs. On the other hand, you can hand maximum skin on skin contact if you take a shower together. Try standing up with the woman raising one leg slightly, and make small, quick and shallow movements to avoid slipping. If you’re feeling more adventurous, try the shower head as a sex toy to really get things going along.
Music can be fantastic mood setter, but you must have the right songs for some earth shattering summer sex. Prepare your playlist in advance instead of scrambling for the right song in the midst of the act. Your idea of sexy summer music might differ from your partner’s, so make sure there’s a mix of both. If you don’t know where to get started, look these up for some inspiration:
George Michael – I Want Your Sex
Prince – Raspberry Beret
Roberta Flack – Feel Like Makin’ Love
R Kelly – Bump ‘n’ Grind
Marvin Gaye – Sexual Healing
Donna Summer – Love to Love You Baby
Seals & Crofts – Summer Breeze
Ella Fitzgerald – Summertime
INXS – Need You Tonight
TLC – Red Light Special